How to be you

The simple phrase ‘be you‘ can seem quite complicated. It’s a phrase, mantra, and question that is asked so often and encouraged in daily social media quotes. I am a huge fan of the phrase, it’s simple to say….yet it’s a bit more time consuming to define. I have had several conversations with several personality types that struggle with this ‘simple’ phrase, including myself.

So just how do you ‘be you‘?

  • Goal-setting that is unique to you. I have talked about a week-long process for goal defining and setting in past posts and strongly encourage self-discovery through goal-setting. To set a goal means you realize what you want to accomplish and what will bring you joy. Even if you do not have a concrete action plan in place exploring what makes you happy is a huge accomplishment and process. Defining yourself through unique goals brings you closer to being your authentic self.
  • Focus on self-care. I believe goals and self-care go hand and hand. Self-care is acknowledging your mental, emotional, and physical well-being need attention. Overall health and happiness are keys to being yourself.  When you embrace the areas in your life that need your attention, you can ‘be you’ comfortably. Part of self-care that encourages ‘being you’ is meditation and focusing on your thoughts; being mindful.
  • Surround yourself with a supportive circle. Ask yourself – Who balances with me? Who supports me and invites my support? Does this circle embrace and encourage your unique self? Do you encourage uniqueness in return? Find a support circle that is a good balance of a unique group.
  • Learn. Expand your knowledge by researching and learning about what you find of interest. Study and perfect certain hobbies or professional development. I encourage you to reach beyond your comfort zone and learn something new as often as you can. Learning helps you express your uniqueness and builds confidence.

There are several tips shared via articles, blog posts, social media discussion boards, etc. I think the four above sum up the basics and are realistic to incorporate without getting too time consuming or complicated. I’d love to hear how you focus on being you! Send me an email or comment below!

Also, I’m excited to announce that my goal focused journal planner is now complete & available in small batch printing!!! This planner even has a section to record your weekly recap, current read and daily focus (wellbeing, spirit, etc.)! My excitement about seeing a completed goal in print form is beyond measure and my gratitude to all of those encouraging me and supporting me extends to all visiting my sites! The planner is currently 25% off.

Questions? Comment below or email me – successencourager@gmail.com

 

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Set goals that support well-being

As you may know I set a fiction reading goal this year. I’m also excited to be working toward a healthier more active lifestyle. These goals are personal to me and support my well-being. By choosing goals that are personally realistic and of interest to me (bring me joy) I allow myself to focus on accountability and by tracking my progress, I can focus on incorporating a little more to each goal as time allows and I feel comfortable.

The rule with goals is…there are no set rules. Sure, there are the basic steps, but goals are just as unique as the individuals setting them.

Even if a million other people set reading goals the process and reason could be entirely different for each. The start date and dedicated time are most likely different. For some January 1 is a great energetic day to begin a new goal, but if you have a job or other responsibilities that are hectic during that time then it might seem like the worst date to start. Dedicating time in the morning my work for you or a long lunch or before bed.

Goals should:

  • Help you accomplish or incorporate something into your life that brings you joy
  • Create happiness
  • Balance your responsibilities, self-care and personal growth
  • Bring you closer to a bigger goal
  • Support your overall wellbeing

Focus on a personal goal:

  • Start by defining a goal or a positive habit that you know will bring you happiness and encourage a positive well-being
  • Dedicate time daily that works with your unique schedule
  • Celebrate progress and adapt as needed

What does your goal-setting look like? How do your goals encourage positive wellness?

Also, I’m excited to announce that my goal focused journal planner is now complete & available in small batch printing!!! This planner even has a section to record your weekly recap, current read and daily focus (wellbeing, spirit, etc.)! My excitement about seeing a completed goal in print form is beyond measure and my gratitude to all of those encouraging me and supporting me extends to all visiting my sites! The planner is currently 25% off.

I’m working on setting the date for my first goal-setting small group workshop!!! More on that soon!

Questions? Comment below or email me – successencourager@gmail.com

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Small steps for goal success

Since committing to my reading goal I have actually been able to focus on other goals that I typically try to work on throughout the entire year. I think that is the amazing thing about focusing on what may seem like a small goal…it triggers the desire to focus on more. My fiction-reading goal has helped me relieve stress, clear my mind and has made it easier to determine what goals are most important.

I love encouraging others to determine their goal focus and define the goal(s) they want to focus on right now, so I wanted to share some of my personal thoughts and goal focus.

My overall wellbeing is always important to me and on my mind. I have incorporated several changes to my diet over the past few years. I set time aside to meditate. One area that I struggle with though is physical activity. In the past, I made time for the gym, walking, swimming, yoga, etc. With three surgeries in four years, I have not really been able to find my groove or get back into a routine that works for me. I sit most of my workday. It’s been difficult to set a schedule to workout.

This past weekend I shifted my thinking. It might be difficult, but it’s not impossible. My last surgery was almost 7 months ago…I feel I’m still in a bit of the healing process and dealing with some other minor health concerns that have been part of my life for several years…again…it’s not impossible to focus on my physical health though. I realized this weekend that focusing on ‘starting’ a new routine based on my past ability was not fair to myself.

So what happened this weekend? I shifted thoughts from ‘how can I get back to where I was’ to ….where can I start NOW? What small step could be taken right then and there that would get me started? I got up and went to the closet…I had purchased a peddle / under desk cycle about 3 years ago (yes, THREE years ago). I used it now and then…but it had been put away for months and months. I pulled it out of the closet, dusted it off and sat it right in front my chair. I did a few stretches and then sat down and started peddling.

I started peddling! Sure sitting and peddling isn’t where I was a few years ago when I was walking 3 to 5 miles any given day…but it was a start. I cycled 16 minutes. I did some more stretches and started my day. I seriously felt more energetic…just 16 minutes and a different mindset and I felt better…Then another 16 minutes that night with a few more stretches. Yesterday was the same routine (two sets of 17 minutes and stretches). I cycled this morning for 17 minutes before work. I have been up out of my seat more today during my work morning. Oh and I even picked up my 5 pound arm weights and used them while cycling!

It’s a start and I’m celebrating my start. More so than the actual physical benefit, right now I am more positive and focused and excited about ‘starting’. A small step…a start…and who knows by this time next month I may have added workout aspects…six months from now I might be adding miles and intensity. Right now I’m moving. I’ve started. I’m excited and not allowing my thoughts about ‘where I use to be in a workout routine’ diminish where I am right now.

Small steps to my goal to better health

  • Cycle at least 15 minutes each morning and each evening while adding stretches before and after.
  • Get up and walk around more at work; use the restroom on the second floor so I’m walking up the stairs at least a few times a day.
  • Stay focused on my diet, cut back on some sugar.
  • Use light arm weights periodically
  • Define my why – Why do I want to workout/increase my physical activity? Because I want to feel better…I want my muscles to strengthen and not ache as much, I want to have more energy, I want to be more active with my nephew…

What small steps are you taking today?

Also, I’m excited to announce that my goal focused journal is now complete & available in small batch printing!!! This planner even has a section to record your weekly goal focus and record your daily focus (wellbeing, etc.)! My excitement about seeing a completed goal in print form is beyond measure and my gratitude to all of those encouraging me and supporting me extends to all visiting my sites!

Questions? Comment below or email me – successencourager@gmail.com

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Why I set a reading goal this year

I have set a goal to read 26 books in 52 weeks. You can read more about it and join in here.

Why did I set this goal? Well, I have a few ongoing goals that I focus on all year. I typically set writing goals, health focused goals, etc. I have even set a simple ‘read more’ goal in the past. I read a lot of non-fiction books to learn about things such as Hygge, read someone’s inspiring journey, learn how to manage my time better, etc. As much as I love books and admire so many authors…I rarely dedicate time to reading fiction. So why set a reading goal now?

Besides the obvious of wanting to read more fiction, I wanted a goal that was realistic for me personally; 26 books of about 300 pages each in a year’s time is about 25 pages a day…I can do that! I also find reading relaxing and it fits into my self-care focus.

Reading actually reduces anxiety, relieves stress, and can easily calm my racing mind after a hectic day. There are actual studies that have proven the benefits of novel reading and it certainly makes me feel better! There is even Bibliotherapy – a therapeutic approach that uses literature to support positive mental wellbeing.

Reading is therapeutic to me and after reading several studies, I think most people could benefit from reading more. Whenever I read, it’s a tiny escape and even a distraction. To read a few pages a day allows me to unwind, decompress, relax and recharge. So this is more than a simple read more goal for me, it’s a way to focus on my wellbeing and take care of myself!

I’d love to hear why others read…or why not? Please share your current read in the comments or email me. Thank you for reading and being a part of my journey!

Also, I’m excited to announce that my goal focused journal is now complete & available in small batch printing!!! This planner even has a section to record what you are currently reading each week! My excitement about seeing a completed goal in print form is beyond measure and my gratitude to all of those encouraging me and supporting me extends to all visiting my sites!

Tell me about your reading goal below or a goal you plan to focus on this week, month or year.

Questions? Comment below or email me – successencourager@gmail.com

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Some of my books that will soon be read !

First of 26 reads this year

I have set a goal to read 26 books in 52 weeks. You can read more about it and join in here.

I have a shelf of books I have wanted to read, but haven’t yet. I will also be asking for reading suggestions and visiting my local library to pick up suggestions there as well!

My first read (in no particular order) is Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. I bought this book about two years ago at a book store that was going out of business and the store owner pointed out that she purchased it for the shop because it was the book that the main character chased after in the movie Serendipity…I loved that movie and the book was priced so reasonably how could I NOT buy it!?

I’m looking forward to reading it and posting my progress. I’ll post more on Instagram as well. If you’d like to join in the discussion please connect with me on Instagram and use #26reads52weeks. I can’t wait to see what everyone will be reading!

Also, I’m excited to announce that my goal focused journal is now complete & available in small batch printing!!! My excitement about seeing a completed goal in print form is beyond measure and my gratitude to all of those encouraging me and supporting me extends to all visiting my sites!

Tell me about your reading goal below or a goal you plan on focusing on this week, month or year.

Questions? email me – successencourager@gmail.com

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Goals are not trends

Goals are personal action plans that celebrate your uniqueness! Goals may seem similar to others, but the reason you set your particular goal is unique to you.

The reason why you want to accomplish a goal is the force behind accomplishment tailored specifically to you.

Dedicate time to discovering why you want to accomplish a certain goal and the action plan will develop. You will set steps in motion to achieve your goal or develop your positive habits.

I’d love to hear what goal you are working on! Share below or email me successencourager@gmail.com

Today my journal planner is 40% OFF! Find more about it here.

The unique calendar journal (planner) will help guide you on your daily journey during this ‘year in the life of…’ YOU.

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Inexpensive gift ideas

There are a variety of opportunities for gift giving, but especially this time of year! Below are a few of my favorite ideas, most priced under $5 (all under $15).

Discount stores (dollar shops, etc.) offer lots of gift set ideas reasonably priced.

Add tissue paper & a nice bag, box or basket:

1. Mug & hot chocolate mix, tea, or coffee
2. Notebook or journal & pen set
3. Speciality soap & sponge or loofah
4. Bargain book & highlighter
5. Cozy socks & lotion
6. Candle & room spray
7. Wall calendar & planner
8. Nail polish & file in a cloth bag
9. Glass bowl & candy variety
10. Playing cards & word search book
11. A Year in the Life of…planner journal for goal defining & tracking (created by me, available here !)

What other inexpensive gift ideas can you share??